Just few days back, I was able to finish John Maxwell's book entitled Desination Success: A map for living out your dreams. Although I've read some of his books before and some points were like echoes from those previous ones I read, there were still some new treasures that popped out for me and I felt like sharing it to you. One is about the difference between Amusement and Recreation.
The Difference Between
Amusement was defined as "the process of not thinking deeply, but rather superficially, about a subject. Literally it means to shut off your mind an not think about things while you are being entertained.". These are activities that we do and things we engage in which are merely to pass off time. We feel a temporary high, or feel whatever emotions that comes out of doing those. After which it doesn't leave a lasting impression on us, thereby doesn't really contribute in making our lives richer. And by richer means adding more lasting memories.
Falling for a Trap
Sadly majority of our activities are for our amusement. Whether we are aware of it or not, we have let our time be consumed in some senseless activities, and in this age of technology, a lot of these had become easily available, accessible and are usually free so it is prone to exploit. One good example is social media. Try to notice more on activities you do with such sites. With facebook most people are just scanning through feeds, which would lead them to all sorts of direction. Either to a very interesting article, to an album of a friend or even a distant friend who recently went on vacation, a timeline of an acquaintance whom you are interested on checking out their status in life. Have they gone married, where are they settled and so on. You'll see yourself turn into a spy, and for what? To satisfy your curiosity. And for what? For nothing. So you know that they have gone to far more places than you do, worked for more prestigious companies, married a more good looking partner, and pretty much seemed to have a better life than you do. And then what? You fall into a pit of self pity. All those hours and effort spent to make you feel bad. Now was it time worth spending? I don't think so. After realizing this, I have limit my use of facebook. Although my curiosity sometimes gets the better of me, at least, I have a voice at the back of my mind to remind me to just stop it.
Recreation on the other hand are more fruitful activities that leaves great memories behind and are usually best spent with someone. Examples of which are traveling, doing sports, hiking, and so on.
Time is Gold
This mere awareness of the need to spend more time on recreation and less on amusement activities has given me a better understanding on spending time itself. It reminds me that time should be spent wisely. This may not hit hard on you yet, and you may need to experience some situations that would let you learn this lesson but, I still I feel the need to remind everyone about this. So yes, time is precious. There are so many goals and productive things that you can do for an hour. It's a resource that you need to give back to yourself and not to meaningless things. Do something that would benefit your life.
Spending Time on Self
There was a depressing time in my life that I was lost. I was merely existing. And although I love my job, I knew it was not the job for me. I was made for something more than it. I had allowed myself to just ride through life. I felt quite empty, and then I realized that's because I haven't really spent time on myself. I spent it on other people. Checking on them through facebook, working for them, thinking about them. No wonder I felt that way. I haven't really done something with myself and for myself. I haven't even checked my reflection on the mirror for a long time. I think that's really how life goes. What you focus on grows. If you divert your energy on yourself, I believe you would feel more empowered because you are feeding yourself the attention, the time, the care and the love that you so deserve. And I think that's how self love works.
I understand that people got responsibilities and they would easily dismiss the idea by arguing that "we've got no time for that." There is time if we make time for it. An hour can do wonders to hour soul and dreams.
Think about this, what if for every hour you spend doing an activity that gives you one step toward your dream? Imagine how fast you can achieve your goals and how many dreams you can achieve?
That's an idea I'd like to leave behind.